Monthly Archives: February 2021

Week #337 – Lower Your Expectations (Stick with me…it’s not what you think!)

Week #337 – Lower Your Expectations (Stick with me…it’s not what you think!)

Greetings Tribe – and Happy Friday!!!

This idea has been on my heart all week…and I know it sounds a little controversial but stick with me, because it’s not what you think!

I had a dentist appointment recently in the middle of this pandemic. Los Angeles is still largely shut down and while things are opening…they are opening very slowly and with great caution.

My dentist is no different. As front line workers they’ve remained open. But there are new procedures in effect. New policies. New restrictions. New precautions.

You know what’s not new?

His level of service.

In fact, I would argue that with the stricter policies came an even HIGHER degree of service than normal. Given all the precautions, they took the time to turn UP their service and professionalism (not dial it back).

Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Over and over again, we’ve all heard the familiar disclaimer while we wait on hold, stand in line, or face delays with things that weren’t a problem just a year ago:

“Due to Covid…”

Yes, due to Covid. Things may take longer, they may be more complicated, they may be slower or more deliberate. I work in service, so I know. We’ve had to jump through a lot of hoops to get things open and running, balancing the need for safe AND speedy.

You know what hasn’t changed? The need for accuracy and professionalism.

This pandemic has tested us, it’s strained us, it has pushed some of us to our limits and beyond…but it shouldn’t compromise us. We can lower our expectations, while maintaining (or even raising) our standards…with ourselves, with each other, and with the people around us.

Let’s not let circumstances be an excuse for bad behavior (this goes for me, too!). When the going gets tough…when the world tells us to lower our expectations, it might be a good time to raise the bar!

Your Happyness Challenge for the Week Ahead: Lower your expectations (but raise your standards!) Whatever challenges life throws at us…whether they be personal problems, public problems, even a global pandemic…take a moment to draw the distinction between expectations and standards. Expectations are messy…they are the things the world, our jobs, or maybe even our relationships set for us (spoken or unspoken). Your standards are ones you set for yourself…your boundaries, your limits, your ability to perform, to follow through, to be professional, or to exceed!

Spread Happyness – Raise the bar (for yourself and those around you)!

2/26/21 by Grace Church
© Grace Church
grace@spreadhappyness.com

Week #336 – “I believe in you!” (Encourage someone today!)

Used with permission. (Scott Cuzzo / SpryMind)

Week #336 – “I believe in you!” (Encourage someone today!)

Greetings Tribe — and Happy Friday!

This time a year I’m always reminded of that time SpreadHappyness was featured in a coloring book!

So here’s a look back at Week #74…and a little reminder:

I believe in you! (Now go encourage someone today!)

To recap: Spread Happyness was featured in a coloring book back in 2016. I had interviewed Scott Cuzzo of SpryMind in November 2015 as part of my “Happyness in Action” series.  Scott spreads happiness by creating coloring books that are good for adults of all ages and genders.  His most recent release at that time, “Believe!”, featured over two-dozen positive quotes and thoughts on the word “Believe” — including one from yours truly!

At the time of the release, I had been traveling for an entire month — stripped of all the things that kept me focused, busy, on purpose, and pleasantly distracted in the year after losing my brother. Now, away from home and my work routines, I was left with an abundance of time to be out in the world. And honestly, it just made me miss Rob even more!

It was enough to make me want to get back on a plane and head home.

But I made myself stay. Reminded, once again, that if I can sit with it long enough — there was presence in the absence. Years later now, there still is.  In every new experience, there is a painful reminder that he is gone for good. I cannot text him or call, cannot share the latest laugh, or ridiculousness, or Super Bowl commentary. Yet somehow, my relationship with him continues. He still shows up.

Even six-plus years later.

It’s a rock and a hard place.  Which reminds me of the coloring page that Scott drew for my quote, and my own interpretation of his drawing.  To me it was a rock — buried in a pile of other rocks — perhaps looking for a way out, or a way to the top, or encouraging another rock to do what seems impossible: BELIEVE!

Your Happyness Challenge for the Week Ahead: BELIEVE IN SOMEONE!!!  Rob loved to encourage people.  Even if he didn’t always believe in himself — he always took time to believe in others.  If you know someone who’s between a rock and a hard place — take time to say “I believe in you!”  Send them a note, share this page, roll up your sleeves, or sit down and color with them while they sort it all out!

And if it’s you that’s feeling discouraged this week…then this post is for you!  “I believe in you!”

Spread Happyness…Encourage someone today!  Share your stories in the comments!

2/19/21 by Grace Church
© Grace Church
grace@spreadhappyness.com

(To learn more about Scott Cuzzo: visit him on Facebook (facebook.com/sprymind), browse his coloring books on Amazon, or contact him directly at scott@sprymind.com.)

Week #335 – The Hard Work of Happyness

Find the Cracks... (photo credit: Grace Church)

Week #335 – The Hard Work of Happyness

Greetings Happyness Tribe!

I’m not gonna lie…this blog has been a challenge lately! And it’s not just Happyness that’s been hard…everything seems difficult. Changing schedules, roller coaster restrictions, worry over friends who are struggling (like, really struggling), not to mention upheaval at large. It’s enough to make me wonder if I was ever on the right side of this!

And as Rob’s birthday came around again yesterday (the seventh one since he died) …and I struggled with what to write, I thought to myself:

Why is Happyness so hard?

Which reminded me of my own words…my own post. The echo of my own voice coming back to me from Week #260…all the way back to the very beginning:

It’s not easy to smile, wave big and say hello like you mean it when you’re grumpy, or sad, or struggling.

(And that’s just Week #1 and #2!)

It’s not easy to reach out, to lend a hand, to mentor or encourage someone when your world feels like it’s falling apart.

It’s not easy to plan ahead, to set goals, or to try something new when your heart has been broken by disappointment…again and again and yet again.

Shoot…NOTHING has been easy in this year-of-all-pandemic-years!

I know that Happyness seems simple sometimes…maybe even too simple (even to me). But let me be the first to tell you, it’s not easy. It’s hard work. And it is SO necessary! Because the reality is, some days (or even years) the world gets the better of us…

…and other times, Happyness wins!

How do I know? I started this website on September 8th…THREE DAYS after my brother took his last, labored breath in a small, quiet hospital room in New York City.

At that time, this is what I wrote…and this is what I believe to this day (it’s still the contents of my “About” page):

SpreadHappyness.com was created in honor of my beloved brother and best friend, Robert Church Jr., who died on Friday, September 5th after a short battle with cancer.  He was 40 years old.

It is my wish to identify and carry forward (through weekly blogposts/challenges) the torch of Rob’s legacy — which I believe was his natural ability to spread happiness to anyone who was lucky enough to cross his path.  If you knew Rob, you already know this to be true.  And I bet you have a story all your own about something Rob said or did — maybe even 20 years ago — that continues to make you happy today!  I want to hear those stories!!!

If you didn’t get to meet Rob, let me introduce you.  I pledge to deliver a little dose of him to you every Friday morning (at least) via this blog.  Because cancer is not the only thing that can spread.  Happiness can take on a life of it’s own too!  It will be up to us to carry his light forward by sharing our stories, living his lessons, and spreading happiness to those who are now lucky enough to cross our paths!

With great love and affection for you all…
Grace (aka “Rob’s sister!”)

So if you didn’t get to meet Rob…let me introduce you (again)! And wish him a Happy Heavenly Birthday while you’re at it! 🙂

Your Happyness Challenge for the Week Ahead: Get to work!!! Spread Happyness is not about being Happy. It’s about “Spreading” Happyness by making choices that uplift and elevate others…not tear them down. When you feel the world getting to you this week or this month — or better yet, when you see it getting to someone else — roll up your sleeves and get to work. There is Happyness to Spread!!!

To life! To love!! To Happyness!!!

Spread Happyness — please share your thoughts in the comments!

2/12/21 by Grace Church
© Grace Church
grace@spreadhappyness.com