Monthly Archives: June 2015

Week #41 – Summer Fun Challenge: “Ride the Rides!”

"Fun with Uncle Robbie!"  (Photo credit: Grace Church)

“Fun with Uncle Robbie” (Photo credit: Grace Church)

Week #41 – Summer Fun Challenge: “Ride the Rides!”

Greetings Happyness Tribe — and welcome to week two of our Summer Fun Challenge!

Graduations are complete, schools are closed, and summer vacations have officially started.  With that comes trips to the amusement park, boardwalk, or maybe even your local carnivals or fairs.  Don’t let the kids have all the fun!  Jump in and “Ride the Rides!”

My very first roller coaster ride was on the Wildcat Coaster at Betrand’s Island in NJ — with my older brother, Tony.  (And yes — we went around twice with no break!)  I have great memories of riding Roaring Rapids, the Log Flume, and even the Bobsled ride at Great Adventure with my father.  And wonderful memories of riding the Asbury Park Ferris Wheel with my mother after a long day at the beach.  But my most precious memories are with Rob — driving all over New Jersey and Pennsylvania in search of the biggest, tallest, and fastest rides within a day’s reach.  (We even took our chances as adults on something called “The Slingshot” at Action Park!)

More recently, I’ve enjoyed some great scream-therapy on Kingda Ka (and lost my keys, to boot!).  Jim and I have battled it out on bumper cars, let loose on the swings, and laughed ourselves silly on the Rock-n-Roll Express.  It’s easy to sit back and watch and remember the good times…but it’s more fun to get over yourself, get in line, and be a kid again!  The best time is right now!

This week’s assignment: Don’t let the kids have all the fun!  RIDE THE RIDES!  Little ones often want to ride the big rides — but they need an adult to go with them.  The next time you find yourself saying, “I’ll wait right here…” — take that as a cue to buy yourself a ticket, a token, or a wristband and GET IN LINE!  Bonus — waiting on line with your spouse/kid/friend/loved-one offers great conversation time.  I think of the HOURS waiting on line with Rob for our turn at any one of the dozens of roller coasters we rode together — and I wouldn’t trade them for the world!

Step right up!  There’s room for one more!  Take a chance…and “Ride the Rides!”

Spread Happyness — share your favorite memories in the comments.  (Then get out there and make some new ones!)

6/26/15 by Grace Church
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PS: Our FUN LIST is growing!  I’ll keep adding your ideas to the list — and pick one at random for each weekly challenge.  Keep ’em coming!!!

– “One Tank Trips”
– Surprise trip for spouse or loved one
– Kayaking
– Beach time
– BBQ’s
– Tourist for the day in nearby city
– Walking the boards
– Rock climbing
– Scuba diving
– Touring an estate
– Time with family
– Sitting on the porch
– Watching for rainbows
– Learning to surf
– Gardening
– Writing a book
– Working on a “summer” project
– Moving to a new town
– Planning a spa day (or half-day, or even lunch hour)
– Taking Fridays (or Mondays) off!
– Day at the ballpark (Minor League stadiums are great, too!)
– Outside concerts/music events
– Hot air balloon ride/festival
– Pool volleyball (a Church-family classic!)
– Take yourself or someone you love for ice cream!
– Weed your front yard garden (and talk with neighbors and folks walking by!)
– Lose yourself in wonderful music, either listening or singing
– Play in the grassy backyard
– Play with your dog (or maybe your neighbor’s dog!)
– Sing karaoke
– Explore your town, county, state…through food and drink!
– Visit a farm
– Make plans to see friends you don’t often get to see (or schedule a gathering!)

(What are we missing?  Send me your ideas and I’ll add them to the list!)

Week #40 – Summer Fun Challenge: “Come play with me!”

"Come play with me!" (Photo credit: Grace Church)

(Photo credit: Grace Church)

Week #40 – Summer Fun Challenge: “Come play with me!”

Greetings Happyness Tribe — and Welcome Summer!

Sunday, June 21st is Father’s Day — but it’s also the Summer Solstice, which places the longest and most delicious days of the year, right at our sandy feet!

Rob always made time for play.  As I mentioned last week, even as an adult, he would plan very carefully to get all his work/chores/errands done so that he could get out and play guilt-free.  And…he would often try to coax me away (and maybe you, too) from cleaning, or bill paying, jobs, or other obligations with a phrase many of us heard as kids: “Come play with me!”

Last week I challenged you to brainstorm a list of FUN things to do this summer — not just for your kids, but for YOU!  Some of you shared those lists with me…and I promised to collate them and share them with you.  Here’s what we’ve got so far — PLEASE KEEP THEM COMING!

– “One Tank Trips”
– Surprise trip for spouse or loved one
– Kayaking
– Beach time
– BBQ’s
– Tourist for the day in nearby city
– Walking the boards
– Rock climbing
– Scuba diving
– Touring an estate
– Time with family
– Sitting on the porch
– Watching for rainbows
– Learning to surf
– Gardening
– Writing a book
– Working on a “summer” project
– Moving to a new town
– Planning a spa day (or half-day, or even lunch hour)
– Taking Fridays (or Mondays) off!
– Day at the ballpark (Minor League stadiums are great, too!)
– Outside concerts/music events
– Hot air balloon ride/festival
– Pool volleyball (a Church-family classic!)

What do you think?  Do you have something to add?  Are you planning something on this list for yourself?  What are we missing?  Send me your ideas and I’ll add them to the list!

Your assignment for this week: Come play with me!!!  For the next 12 weeks — as we complete one full year of Happyness — I’ll be challenging you every Friday to a different way to have FUN this summer.  I want to build the largest and most comprehensive list of summer fun ideas from REAL people like you and me!  Please keep your ideas coming!  And in the meantime…pick something!  Get your chores done — and plan some fun this week! 

Spread Happyness — don’t keep your summer fun all to yourself!  Share your thoughts — and ideas — in the comments!

PS: And Happy Father’s Day!

6/19/15 by Grace Church
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Week #39 – “Summa-time is Funna-time!” (Are YOU having FUN yet?!)

"Summa-time is Funna-time!" (Photo credit: Grace Church)

(Photo credit: Grace Church)

Week #39 – “Summa-time is Funna-time!” (Are YOU having FUN yet?!)

Happy Friday, Everyone!  And happy nine-month anniversary to SpreadHappyness.com!

The weather finally turned warm this week!  School’s wrapping up, kids are graduating, and the first official day of summer is just a week or so away!

And if Rob said this to me once, he said it a thousand times: “Summa-time is Funna-time!”

Rob loved nothing more than the warm weather and a day at the beach (or the airport…or the mountains…or wherever it was he wanted to be)!  He set up his whole life to ensure that he was having fun.  And if it wasn’t fun…it didn’t get done!

This isn’t to say that he was irresponsible.  Quite the contrary!  Rob spent a lot of time putting his ducks in a row…so that he was truly free to enjoy himself.  Many mornings we’d talk or text and he’d let me know he was cleaning/shopping/running errands/etc. so that later that day he could get to the shore.  He always took care of business first…so that he could have fun later!

No doubt you, too, have lots of things to do, to see, and to get done.  Maybe you’re even planning things so that your kids/family/friends/coworkers are sure to have fun.

But have you made PLANS for YOU to have FUN?!

You might think that “planning” and “fun” don’t go together…but I think quite the opposite is true.  If we’re honest, I think the thing that holds us back the most is that FUN means risking being foolish.  And that’s hard for us adults!  Most of us have spent our lifetimes to this point getting our ducks in a row and acting like, well, adults!  But maybe now’s the time to take a risk.  Make a fool of yourself!  What have you got to lose?

This week’s assignment: LET’S PLAN SOME FUN THIS SUMMER!!!  The internet is FULL of lists and activities for adults to plan for their children…but are adults taking time to plan fun for themselves?  I think not!  So I’m calling on you, Happyness Tribe, to collectively brainstorm a list of FUN things to do this summer that bring out the kid in you!   Get your friends and family involved!  Have a brainstorming session!  Think about things you liked to do as a kid.  Things you wanted to do as an adult.  Or maybe bucket list items you want to cross off before you die!  Better yet — ask some kids how they plan to have fun this summer!  Either way — silly or serious — get your list in one place and SHARE IT in the comments!  I’ll publish a master list next week with all the ideas — and maybe YOUR idea might just be the one that helps someone else have some much needed FUN this summer!

The best way to teach your kids and others to have fun — is to have fun yourself!

SpreadHappyness — let’s see how many FUN ideas we can assemble in one spot!  Share your ideas — and let’s make sure “Summa-time is Funna-time” for everyone!

6/12/15 by Grace Church
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Week #38 – “Keep Going!”

"Keep Going" (Photo credit: Grace Church)

“Keep Going” (Photo credit: Grace Church)

Week #38 – “Keep Going!”

Welcome, June!

We flipped the calendar to a new month this week…and with that, I’m forced to look ahead to August.  I keep a three-month spread out in front of me at all times.  Always taking three months at a time.  13 weeks.  1 whole quarter.

As I started to fill in my August dates…I can see the anniversaries now all in one shot.  1st round of chemo.  2nd round of chemo.  3rd round.  4th round.  Rob in the ER.  Rob in the ER again.  5th treatment…nope.  That one’s scratched out.  That’s the day I took Rob to a pre-op at Sloan in New York.  The last precious and beautiful day we spent together outside a hospital.    Exactly 10 days before he died.

And here we are…another Friday the 5th.

This grief has been an extraordinary thing.  Just when you think you’re doing okay, it throws you another anniversary!  Looking at three months of reminders of where we were last year is more than overwhelming.  Some people have suggested that I not record those anniversaries…but there are others too.  The day I gave notice at my corporate job.  The day I left my corporate job.  The day our first writing deal came through.  The day we finished and sent a certain script.  These all serve to remind me that stuff happens…every day.  Some good.  Some bad.  The Universe may be indifferent…but Serendipity is alive and well, too.

At a time when things just don’t make sense…and I feel my heart growing dark and cynical, I cling to this truth: Anything can happen.

And I hear my brother’s voice urging me on…as I know he urged on many of you:

Keep Moving!  Keep Going!  Keep Playing!  Keep Flying!

Your assignment for this week: Are you feeling like you are up against a wall?  KEEP GOING!  Press forward to that one next step…and then the one after that.  Better yet…do you know someone who is stuck or struggling to move forward?  Urge them on with some encouraging words: Keep Going!  Keep Playing!  Keep Moving!  Keep Flying!

ANYTHING can happen.  The good…and the bad.  The answer: Keep Going!

Spread Happyness — Keep Going!  (And encourage others to do so, as well!)

6/5/15 by Grace Church
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