“Fun Times” (photo credit: Grace Church)

Week #90 – Summer Fun List! (37 random ways to have fun this summer)

Last year this time — I asked you to share your ideas and plans for FUN over the summer.

And for TWELVE WEEKS we counted down different ways to enjoy ourselves.  Because while adults are usually busy planning their kids’ summer fun — they often overlook their own!

And I want to make sure YOU have fun again this summer!

So I’m recapping the final list…37 random suggestions for FUN during the summer months.  And I’ll say it again: I know you have things to do, to see, to get done.  Maybe you’re even planning things so that your kids/family/friends/coworkers are sure to have a good time.

Don’t forget to make plans for YOU to have fun, too!

Because as I said last year: the best way to teach others to have fun — is to have fun yourself!

Your Happyness Challenge for the Week Ahead: How do you plan to have FUN this summer?  We have a full THIRTEEN WEEKS ahead of us!  And while I know some of you may groan at the reminder that summer is limited…the seasons serve to remind us that time is fleeting.  Not just with weather…but with life.  We never know what tomorrow, or next month, or next year will bring.  Don’t let it pass you by!  Make this the summer you take that trip, cross off that bucket list item, make that leap, try that thing, get serious about that project, or just get plain silly!  Peruse this list, brainstorm with the family, share it with friends!  And report back — because it’s no fun to keep all the fun to yourself!  😉

Experience is a commodity.  Trade wisely!  Here are 37 random ideas to get you started:

37. Take a 3-4 hour “swamp walk” in the Florida Everglades
36. Have breakfast for dinner — or dinner for breakfast!
35. Tubing down the Delaware!
34. “One Tank Trips”
33. Surprise trip for spouse or loved one
32. Kayaking
31. Beach time
30. BBQ’s
29. Tourist for the day in nearby city
28. Walking the boards
27. Rock climbing
26. Scuba diving
25. Touring an estate
24. Time with family
23. Sitting on the porch
22. Watching for rainbows
21. Learning to surf
20. Gardening
19. Writing a book
18. Working on a “summer” project
17. Moving to a new town
16. Planning a spa day (or half-day, or even lunch hour)
15. Taking Fridays (or Mondays) off!
14. Day at the ballpark (Minor League stadiums are great, too!)
13. Outside concerts/music events
12. Hot air balloon ride/festival
11. Pool volleyball (a Church-family classic!)
10. Take yourself or someone you love for ice cream!
9. Weed your front yard garden (and talk with neighbors and folks walking by!)
8. Lose yourself in wonderful music, either listening or singing
7. Play in the grassy backyard
6. Play with your dog (or maybe your neighbor’s dog!)
5. Sing karaoke
4. Explore your town, county, state…through food and drink!
3. Visit a farm
2. Make plans to see friends you don’t often get to see (or schedule a gathering!)
1. Blind-folded Make-overs!  (Great for a rainy day!  Bonus points if you go out in public after!)

How do you plan to have FUN this summer?!

Spread Happyness — share your thoughts or ideas in the comments (or by email) and keep the list growing!

6/3/16 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com

“Remember” (photo: Grace Church)

Week #89 – Remember: Keep the “Memorial” in Memorial Day!

This week’s post is a partial repeat from Week #36 — because it’s always a good reminder to keep the “Memorial” in Memorial Day!

“Only the dead have seen the end of war.”  (attributed to Plato — and George Santayana)

You’ll see a lot of commentaries about Memorial Day this weekend.  Here is one more — but it may not be what you think!

Memorial Day, for certain, is a day set aside to remember those who died serving our country.  But before it was called “Memorial Day” — it was called “Decoration Day” because it was a day when families reunited at burial locations to “decorate” the graves of their fallen.  And because many people traveled very far to get there — they would relish the opportunity to visit and reconnect with relatives, usually accompanied by a pot-luck or picnic supper nearby.

So, as I wrote last year, our modern traditions of family reunions and bar-b-queing are not really that far off.

It’s the REMEMBERING that we’re sometimes missing!

Your Happyness Challenge for the Week Ahead: Put the MEMORIAL back in Memorial Day!  Enjoy your family, the nice weather, and the freedom we have — just remember to REMEMBER!  This may mean simply raising a flag, bringing a note or flowers to a grave of one who lost his/her life in service, or writing a name in the sand for all to see.  You could make a donation, plant a tree, or lay a wreath at the base of a statue.  Even after the day is past, the flowers fade, or the ocean wipes the shore clean — you never know how long your tribute will stick to the walls of someone else’s memory!

How do you keep the MEMORIAL in Memorial Day?!

Spread Happyness — share your thoughts or ideas in the comments!

5/27/16 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com

“Go Fish!” (photo credit: Grace Church)

Week #88 – Go Fish!  (What’s on your mind?)

I found this photo of Rob in an old photo album — and just had to share it!

Unpacking has been a bit like playing the game “Go Fish!”  I never know what I’m going to discover when I dive into another box, or bag, or envelope.

And so this week, I want to ask you: what’s on your mind?!

• What do you have planned for the summer?
• What topics would you like to discuss?
• Know a Happyness Spreader you’d like to celebrate?
• Have a Happyness in Action story you’d like to share?
• How can I help you Spread Happyness?
• What else is on your mind?!

I’m playing a big game of “Go Fish!” this week — and I’d love to hear from you!

Your Happyness Challenge for the week ahead: Go Fish!  Memorial Day is right around the corner…and before we launch into our Summer Fun List, I’d love to hear from you!  What’s on your mind?  What are your plans for the summer?  Know a Happyness Spreader you’d like to celebrate?  Have a Happyness in Action story you’d like to share?   How have you Spread Happyness lately?

Lay it on me!  How can I help you Spread Happyness this summer?  I’d love to hear from you!

Spread Happyness — share your thoughts in the comments (or send me an email)!

5/20/16 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com

Aucoustic untouched. (Photo by Grace Church)

Week #87 – “Keep playing that guitar!”  (Don’t let your dreams gather dust!)

On Rob’s word board there is a slip of paper that says, “Keep playing that guitar!”

Without knowing the whole story behind it, these are most likely words of encouragement Rob offered to the person who pinned them there.

Can you imagine that?!  Can you imagine, at your funeral, having someone sum up your life in four simple words of encouragement?

What words will someone remember you by?

This post comes on the heels of hearing about a few friends this week who are fulfilling their dreams.  One is making a big move to a place he always wanted to live.  Another’s daughter just performed as a back-up singer on a national TV show.  And another has completed a year-long adventure in another state and is now returning “home” with a new perspective on life.  There are weight loss successes, return-to-college graduations, and hard-earned masters degrees.  Dreams of all shapes and sizes coming true…every day.

It’s Graduation Season

It’s graduation season…and high schoolers and college students everywhere will be leaving the safety of their nests and setting out on lives of their own making.  Graduation cards will be filled with the phrase “follow your dreams!”  But do we really mean that?  (I mean, we must…because no graduation card ever wishes the recipient a life of quiet desperation, right?)

What’s your dream?

Are you chasing your dreams?  Or are they gathering dust?  Do you even remember what they were?  Or when you may have set them aside?

Your Happyness Challenge for the week ahead: Don’t let your dreams gather dust!  As we celebrate the graduations and bright futures of high schoolers and college students everywhere — take a moment to remember where you were headed and who you thought you were going to be.  Are you you still on the right track?  Have you followed your dreams?  Or maybe your old dreams lead you to new dreams?  Or did life or circumstances derail you?  Don’t despair…you’ve graduated life with honors!  Put on a cap and gown, play Pomp & Circumstance, and celebrate who you are today and all that you’ve accomplished.  Then dust off those dreams…and set your sails for a new horizon!  Because it’s never to late and you’re never too old.  The best day to get started on your dreams is TODAY! 

To misquote Henry David Thoreau: “Go confidently in the direction of your dreams!  Live the life you imagined!”

Spread Happyness — share your thoughts and dreams in the comments!

5/15/16 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com

“Take care!” (photo credit: Grace Church)

Week #86 – “Take care of yourself!” (Especially on Mother’s Day)

Mother’s Day is this Sunday, May 8th!  Last week, I polled over 50 REAL MOMS who shared with me what they REALLY want on Mother’s Day (and it isn’t always reservations).  If you haven’t made plans yet, don’t panic!   Read this first for a list of ideas that you can’t find in a store or restaurant!

Mother’s Day and Mixed Emotions

Many of the women I exchanged ideas with reported feeling mixed emotions on Mother’s Day.  Issues of infertility or infant death, the loss of parents or children at any age, disconnection from living parents or children, disagreements among family members, decline of elderly parents, or disappointments in childhood or childrearing — they all come front and center on a day when it seems like “everyone” else is out celebrating with their perfect and loving families.

If you feel this way, please know you are not alone.

There are many articles circulating about what to do when you can’t, won’t, or don’t want to celebrate Mother’s Day.  The bottom line is this…and it’s in my own mother’s words:

“Take care of yourself.”

These are tough words to hear when you feel victimized, bitter, or powerless.  They’re more like a bed of nails than a soft place to fall — trust me, I know.  But they are true.

Because if you won’t take care of you…then who else will?

As I said last week, many women reported mixed feelings on Mother’s Day.  Their advice?  Seek refuge in the comfort of safe friends, the company of like-minded people, or in the things that you really want for yourself and your future!

Your Happyness Challenge for the week ahead: “Take care of yourself!”  Mother’s Day is a great day to remind each of us that “mothering” is an age-old practice.  And while one woman may be have brought you into this world (and maybe even another brought you up)…all that she taught you, good and bad, instructs how you carry and deliver yourself your entire life!  If Mother’s Day is a struggle for you — do what you need to do to take care of yourself this year!  

And take care of others, too — because everyone needs a mom sometime!

Spread Happyness — share your thoughts in the comments!

5/6/16 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com

“What’s on your menu?” (by Grace Church)

Week #85 – Mother’s Day is May 8th!  (Read this before making reservations!)

April is coming to a close — and I wanted to take a moment for a little public service announcement to remind those of you who are celebrating Mother’s Day this year:

PLAN AHEAD!

But before you pick up the phone to make a reservation, take a moment to think about what the ladies in your life REALLY want.

And I’m not talking about jewelry or clothes, purses or perfume.

I polled over 50 ladies this week, and asked them:
What do you REALLY want but are afraid to ask for?

The answers may or may not be surprising — but one thing is for sure: very few of them can be purchased at the mall or served in a restaurant.

Mother’s Day is one of the most stressful days of the year in restaurants.  It is NOT a good day to make last minute plans or take your party of nine to try a new place.  If the lady in your life LOVES to dine out, and everyone is up for behaving, being on time, and figuring out the bill without her help — then by all means make your reservations now!  (But if that’s the case, you’ve probably already done that!)

If not, take heart — and listen to what REAL MOMS told me they REALLY want on Mother’s Day:

For Starters
– Extra Sleep: this may mean sleeping in, a nap during the day, or an undisputed and early lights-out.  Most of all — moms want sleep!
– Time Alone: moms have a difficult time asking for this because they love their families — but next to extra sleep, all moms expressed some desire for time alone to read, watch TV, swing in a hammock, putter in the garden, work on a project, or just finish their morning cup of coffee.  From just a few extra minutes of solitude to 48 hours away from home — moms want a little time that’s all their own!
– Peace & Quiet: over and over again, moms longed for a day of no fighting, fussing, stress, or strife.  This is a good day for kids to practice their best behavior (dads too!).

The Main Course
– Spa Service/Pampering: Meals are big part of any occasion — but most moms I polled want some sort of pampering.  A massage, manicure, pedicure, facial, or full service — ladies love to be pampered.  (Just be sure to find out her favorite places — or get a recommendation from a friend!)
– Special Dinner at Home: While some do want to go out, most moms said they’d prefer to eat a meal at home — they just don’t want to be responsible for planning, preparing, and cleaning up after it!  If you decide to treat mom to a home-cooked feast — just be sure you are prepared to take care of everything (or maybe just order out)!  Cleaning up someone else’s mess is not a gift!  😉
– Time with Family: I know, I know — moms said they wanted time alone, right?  Well, they also want time with their families.  Just gathering everyone under one roof, for one day, could make your mom’s year!  (Oh — and maybe ONE good picture of everyone!)
– Gardening & Yard Supplies/Help: Several moms mentioned gardening and yard supplies, and a little help getting things done!  One of the most entertaining accounts was of a family that gathered to weed and plant while the mom sat in a chair and gave instructions!
– Stuff: A hammock, flowers, something pretty, something tasty, a movie night, or a scuba diving excursion — there is still a desire for presents, but not always the ones you’d expect!  (Don’t be afraid to ask!)

SWEET STUFF
– Handmade Cards/Projects from Kids: Above all, moms cherish those little creations made by tiny hands!  Engage the kids in a project for mom (preferably while they are out of the house so mom can read, sleep, pamper, putter, or binge watch her favorite show!)
– Loving Note from Husband/Significant Other: Several moms mentioned that they love to hear from their husbands/partners on Mother’s Day.  Just a few words of acknowledgment and appreciation go a long way (but not always all the way…so no strings attached guys, okay?).
– A Simple Thank You: Two words that mean more than anything money can buy!

EXTRAS:  It’s hard to make a list of things NOT to do — but over and over again, moms expressed the desire for a day that included:
– No Chores (ideally done for her, not left for Monday morning!)
– No Decisions (mom might like someone else to take the reigns today)
– No Requests (a day without question marks would be delightful)
– No Fighting (for one day, please!  You can do this!)

Your Happyness Challenge for the week ahead: Mother’s Day is May 8th!  Do you know what the mom in your life REALLY wants?  Use this list to jump start the conversation!  Present her with a menu of options and have her circle her favorites.  You might even be able to multi-task to make sure she gets a little of everything she wants throughout the day.  The most important thing is to PLAN AHEAD!  Whatever she wants — don’t leave it until the last minute.  And if it is reservations — please make them now (and be sure to take care of your server, chances are it’s their Mother’s Day too.)

Above all: Remember that Mother’s Day is available every day — not just once a year!

[A big THANK YOU to all the Dreamers & Builders who took the time to respond to my poll — and whose honest sharing made this post possible!]

Spread Happyness — PLAN AHEAD!  And share your Mother’s Day ideas in the comments!

PS: I realize that for some, Mother’s Day is not always the happiest of holidays.  Death, disagreements, disconnection, or decline can bring about mixed emotions.  If this is you, you are not alone.  Many women reported similar feelings.  Their advice?  Seek refuge in the comfort of safe friends, the company of like-minded people, or in the things that you really want for yourself!

4/29/16 by Grace Church
© Grace Church
grace@spreadhappyness.com

“What’s on your menu?” (by Grace Church)

Week #85 – Mother’s Day is May 8th!  (Read this before making reservations!)

April is coming to a close — and I wanted to take a moment for a little public service announcement to remind those of you who are celebrating Mother’s Day this year:

PLAN AHEAD!

But before you pick up the phone to make a reservation, take a moment to think about what the ladies in your life REALLY want.

And I’m not talking about jewelry or clothes, purses or perfume.

I polled over 50 ladies this week, and asked them:
What do you REALLY want but are afraid to ask for?

The answers may or may not be surprising — but one thing is for sure: very few of them can be purchased at the mall or served in a restaurant.

Mother’s Day is one of the most stressful days of the year in restaurants.  It is NOT a good day to make last minute plans or take your party of nine to try a new place.  If the lady in your life LOVES to dine out, and everyone is up for behaving, being on time, and figuring out the bill without her help — then by all means make your reservations now!  (But if that’s the case, you’ve probably already done that!)

If not, take heart — and listen to what REAL MOMS told me they REALLY want on Mother’s Day:

For Starters
– Extra Sleep: this may mean sleeping in, a nap during the day, or an undisputed and early lights-out.  Most of all — moms want sleep!
– Time Alone: moms have a difficult time asking for this because they love their families — but next to extra sleep, all moms expressed some desire for time alone to read, watch TV, swing in a hammock, putter in the garden, work on a project, or just finish their morning cup of coffee.  From just a few extra minutes of solitude to 48 hours away from home — moms want a little time that’s all their own!
– Peace & Quiet: over and over again, moms longed for a day of no fighting, fussing, stress, or strife.  This is a good day for kids to practice their best behavior (dads too!).

The Main Course
– Spa Service/Pampering: Meals are big part of any occasion — but most moms I polled want some sort of pampering.  A massage, manicure, pedicure, facial, or full service — ladies love to be pampered.  (Just be sure to find out her favorite places — or get a recommendation from a friend!)
– Special Dinner at Home: While some do want to go out, most moms said they’d prefer to eat a meal at home — they just don’t want to be responsible for planning, preparing, and cleaning up after it!  If you decide to treat mom to a home-cooked feast — just be sure you are prepared to take care of everything (or maybe just order out)!  Cleaning up someone else’s mess is not a gift!  😉
– Time with Family: I know, I know — moms said they wanted time alone, right?  Well, they also want time with their families.  Just gathering everyone under one roof, for one day, could make your mom’s year!  (Oh — and maybe ONE good picture of everyone!)
– Gardening & Yard Supplies/Help: Several moms mentioned gardening and yard supplies, and a little help getting things done!  One of the most entertaining accounts was of a family that gathered to weed and plant while the mom sat in a chair and gave instructions!
– Stuff: A hammock, flowers, something pretty, something tasty, a movie night, or a scuba diving excursion — there is still a desire for presents, but not always the ones you’d expect!  (Don’t be afraid to ask!)

SWEET STUFF
– Handmade Cards/Projects from Kids: Above all, moms cherish those little creations made by tiny hands!  Engage the kids in a project for mom (preferably while they are out of the house so mom can read, sleep, pamper, putter, or binge watch her favorite show!)
– Loving Note from Husband/Significant Other: Several moms mentioned that they love to hear from their husbands/partners on Mother’s Day.  Just a few words of acknowledgment and appreciation go a long way (but not always all the way…so no strings attached guys, okay?).
– A Simple Thank You: Two words that mean more than anything money can buy!

EXTRAS:  It’s hard to make a list of things NOT to do — but over and over again, moms expressed the desire for a day that included:
– No Chores (ideally done for her, not left for Monday morning!)
– No Decisions (mom might like someone else to take the reigns today)
– No Requests (a day without question marks would be delightful)
– No Fighting (for one day, please!  You can do this!)

Your Happyness Challenge for the week ahead: Mother’s Day is May 8th!  Do you know what the mom in your life REALLY wants?  Use this list to jump start the conversation!  Present her with a menu of options and have her circle her favorites.  You might even be able to multi-task to make sure she gets a little of everything she wants throughout the day.  The most important thing is to PLAN AHEAD!  Whatever she wants — don’t leave it until the last minute.  And if it is reservations — please make them now (and be sure to take care of your server, chances are it’s their Mother’s Day too.)

Above all: Remember that Mother’s Day is available every day — not just once a year!

[A big THANK YOU to all the Dreamers & Builders who took the time to respond to my poll — and whose honest sharing made this post possible!]

Spread Happyness — PLAN AHEAD!  And share your Mother’s Day ideas in the comments!

PS: I realize that for some, Mother’s Day is not always the happiest of holidays.  Death, disagreements, disconnection, or decline can bring about mixed emotions.  If this is you, you are not alone.  Many women reported similar feelings.  Their advice?  Seek refuge in the comfort of safe friends, the company of like-minded people, or in the things that you really want for yourself!

4/29/16 by Grace Church
© Grace Church
grace@spreadhappyness.com

Memories…made possible by Phil Hirlemann                   (photo credits: Grace Church)

Week #84 – What is Your Art? (Dedicated to Phil Hirlemann)

We lost two great artists this week: one, a pop icon and musical genius recognized world-wide for his unique vision and creative expression; the other, a local art/photography teacher who touched thousands of lives by going above and beyond the classroom for his students.

The first, of course, is Prince.

The second, is Phil Hirlemann.  For those of you who don’t know who this is — he was the art and photography teacher at my local high school for over 25 years.  My Facebook feed was immediately flooded with personal accounts of how Mr. Hirlemann impacted the individual lives of his students — sometimes decades after they graduated!

Over and over again, the same themes are repeated:

• How he cared for his students
• Believed in their individual abilities
• Made everyone feel equal
• Encouraged art as an outlet (for otherwise tied up and confused teenagers)
• Introduced us to other things like music and cars
• And most important — created an environment where high schoolers felt free to express themselves and be heard

He did this all through ceramics, painting, photography, screen printing, drawing…

…otherwise known as ART.

My personal testimony is not that exciting or nearly as personal.  It wasn’t until AFTER I graduated that I had my opportunity to interact with Mr. Hirlemann — and it wouldn’t be until quite a few years later that I would realize the importance of his contribution.

Mr. Hirlemann loaned me (probably against the rules) the camera and lens that I used to photograph Rob’s senior high school football games.  Every Friday I would pick up the equipment — and every Monday morning I’d return it.  That year, I photographed every single one of Rob’s games.  But it wasn’t until Rob died that it hit home how important those photographs were to him, to his classmates…and now to me.

At a time when art and music are being cut from school carricula — it’s worth looking at the impact they have on our lives long term.  Most other subjects require us to study someone else’s accomplishments or genius.  Art gives us the unique opportunity to look inside and get in touch with our own vision, our own voice.

What students learn in art class is self-expression, the ability to create and communicate OUR unique vision to the world.  

The ability to express ourselves fully, and be heard — even if it’s two decades later!

Your Happyness Challenge for the week ahead: “What is Your Art?”  Do you have a teacher or mentor who believed in you, who encouraged you, who got you in touch with your art?  Be grateful — and find a way to thank them this week.  You may not be able to track him/her down directly — but by expressing yourself, by sharing your art with others, by encouraging someone else, or spreading happyness — you honor them and celebrate their contribution to your life.

Thanks for the memories, Mr. Hirlemann…not just the ones you created with us in the classroom, but also the ones you taught us to create for ourselves as adults!

Spread Happyness — tell us about your art in the comments!

4/22/16 by Grace Church
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grace@spreadhappyness.com

Lake Aeroflex (photo credit: Grace Church)

Week #83 – “All I need is a pair of wheels…”

Still unpacking…but we’re getting into the good stuff!  (I unearthed my 8th grade photo album yesterday!  No one is safe!)

There’s two major excavation projects going on here:

1. There is the moving and unpacking of the “current” stuff — that’s the stuff I’ve been living with in my apartment for the past 8 years.
2. And then there is the unpacking of the “storage” stuff — that’s the stuff that’s been in storage for more years than I care to calculate.  Some goes back to college.  Some — as I mentioned — goes back to 8th grade!

No wonder I am waking up disoriented!  I barely know what city I’m in — let alone what decade!

The crazy thing is…through it all, I sometimes forget that Rob is gone.  Like gone…for good.  I swear there are days when I’m certain I could call him and he would pick up his phone.  The distance — or perhaps the disruption in location — has allowed me to reconnect to him in an entirely new and unexpected way.

And while I’m supposed to be purging things…I have added a few items.  Most recently, I bought myself a bike.  I’ve had lots of different commutes in my lifetime — anywhere from 15 minutes to 2.5 hours.  I’ve walked across town, driven the freeway, rode the train, taken the subway, and sat in a bus on Route 3.  But never have I used a bike…until now!

It was the last place I expected my brother to show up!

There’s something about being on a bicycle that takes you back to when you were a kid.  That first taste of freedom.  The ability to get anywhere, faster.  Down the street, through the woods, or maybe even the next town over.  As soon as we were able — we rode our bikes.  EVERYWHERE!  (As long as we were home by dark!)

And while Rob never rode a bike up Ventura Boulevard with me — I remember him, and all the neighborhood gang, with each and every push of the pedals.  “All I need is a pair of wheels!”

Your Happyness Challenge for the week ahead: “All I need is a pair of wheels!”  Do you have memories of riding your bike when you were a kid?  When was the last time you were on one?  Believe me, it’s true what they say: you don’t forget.  In fact, you may remember more than you think!  Now…don’t just jump on and go riding into traffic if you haven’t been on one in a while!  But if you have an opportunity…jump on a bicycle this week.  And see where the memories take you!

Spread Happyness — share your stories in the comments!

4/15/16 by Grace Church
© Grace Church
grace@spreadhappyness.com

“Green it is!!” (photo credit: Grace Church)

Week #82 – What color are your memories?

We’re a couple of weeks into the move — and we’re still unpacking!

Sometimes it’s fun — I find an item I’ve been looking for, get reunited with something I need, or rediscover something I forgot I even had.

Sometimes it’s rough though — I unpack a bad memory, am reminded of a past regret, or come across something that reminds me of someone, or something, I loved.

This week I opened a large plastic wrapping that contained all my flat pieces: artwork, white board, bulletin board, and yes…Rob’s word board.

The handwriting all still in place.  Colored pushpins tacking each note to the foam.  A reminder of the turnout, of the waves of caring and support we received, but mostly a reminder of what Rob’s life came down to:

Your words.  Your memories.  Your reflections of him.

“Words to remember me by…” is what I wrote on that board. (Eternal thanks to Frank Todisco for bringing the supplies for that project!)

One of the slips of paper, written in green Sharpie, said: “I even chose green — because to me it means ‘life’.  And that’s what you were.”

At the same time…I came across this picture.  Rob rummaging through the cabinets at home…wearing a green shirt!

So…sting of regret, pang of grief, warm memory, and a happier heart for knowing him at all:

Green it is!

Your Happyness Challenge for the week ahead: What color are your memories?  It is not uncommon for humans to translate energy into color.  This is where phrases like “a dark mood” or “sun-shiney disposition” or “seeing red” come into play.  If you had to be remembered in a color…what would it be?  Better yet…if you could describe the ones you love in color, what would you say and why?

Don’t wait until it’s too late.  Share your love and affection for someone in color this week!

Spread Happyness – and tell me, what color are your memories?

4/8/16 by Grace Church
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